Daily writing prompt
What could you let go of, for the sake of harmony?
Letting go of something for the sake of harmony, I'm taking as in the context of a relationship in this situation.
I've walked this earth for a fair number of years now and along the way have picked up a nugget of wisdom here and there and dropped each one into a depository bag(more metaphorical than literal) to pull back out as a "nugget of wisdom" somewhere down the road called life.
One thing I've noticed over time is some folks have a pretty decently sized ......... ego. Others not so much. Not that they think less of themselves, but aren't really caught up in the whole "look at me and who I am" deal. Often and usually(although not always), those folks I've run across who possess a healthy ego, also have a fairly well-established dose of pride or "being prideful" that goes hand in hand.
What I've found is that often and again it is my experience that these folks (large ego + big dose of pridefulness) need to be right. Always need to be right. We're talking about an unhealthy need to be right. Think their whole being needs to be right in every situation.
I won't go into details, but a dear person to me had much of their ""this is who I am;" - a personal view of themselves that was based partly on "what will and do people think of me?" So, "if am always right - people won't think less of me."
When we exhibit a loud ego that is prideful and possesses that unhealthy desire and need to be right in every situation, the potential is always present that, any level of harmony in relations and situations can never be arrived at.
Why?
Even if the "ego person" is in the wrong, they will never be able to admit it. Being wrong or having to admit they're wrong, rattles their view of who they are.
The point is that in relationships, we sometimes need to give up the need and desire to be right. Relationships aren't built and maintained based on a scoresheet of who has more "right-scores" versus "wrong-scores."
Relationships are built and nurtured on the desire to be in harmony with one another and sometimes that requires me or you or your partner "not being right." Not to fight "tooth and nail" to be right and puff your chest out and inflict damage in your relationship, but to give up "the right way" to bring harmony back into balance.
Giving up the need to always be right isn't "rolling over and letting someone step on you" nor is it "being weak." I see it as "being right isn't worth the damage it may cause to this relationship, nor is it worth it to how it may hurt the person across from me in this relationship." I may not have explained it well, but hopefully, you get the idea here.
I get that people like to be right. I like to be right - especially way back in college when it came to exams.
In relationships, there will often be a "hill you may willing to die on." But, the need to be "right all to time" isn't one of them. It's a real harmony killer.
--as always with love--
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