If you're empathic, then I don't need to explain this passage to you. You get it. Being empathic is a blessing. I understand that. It's a blessing for those who share an empath's life because we get people. We can see and understand or feel things many cannot. A look from another, a phone call, or even an email can allow an empath to make an instant connection.
On the other hand, being an empath can be a curse. Because we typically bring light, most are drawn to us. This can be exhausting.
Most empaths are introverts, and we need alone time to recharge. Being an introvert also makes it difficult to spend a lot time in a crowd or with people who are drawn to our light. Our lights get extinguished very easily if not protected.
Personally, I have people in my life who build me up, because they understand me. We have a mutually understanding and loving relationship. They are able to listen to me, I to them, and we connect. I have other people who demand my life and only take. I dig deep to balance the demanding people in my life. Those people take so much energy from me. I don't even need to be in their physical presence to have my energy drained.
Remember, empaths sense happy and sad from any connection with people. We sense energy. So just an email, text, or a phone call can be a boost or a drain.
I've become quite adept at metering my time between sharing it with friends and family in positive and negative interactions. It's balance, and I need it to survive and to thrive. The more I thrive and grow, the more I am able to share my light.
This metering of my time can be seen as selfish. I call it boundaries. Healthy people understand boundaries. They respect when people need time alone, because they are emotionally secure and well adjusted, and don't take my absence personally.
I am well adjusted, so I can deal with the people who demand my time. I prepare myself for when we will be together and bring my best self. It's usually demanding, but I've gotten good at it.
It's taken me years to learn how to set boundaries and try to bring my best self to all situations. It's still hard, and I'm not always successful in staying fully engaged the whole time. Empaths are better in small crowds. Lots of energy - good or bad - is overwhelming.
If you have an empath in your life, remember, we love to love and share our light. You can love them back by being understanding and helping them in social situations. We are good at them, but when it's time to go, please hold the door for us and send us off with a smile. It's nothing personal if we leave early. It's called self preservation and self-love.
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